Are You Parenting the Right Way?

By Tarley Reed

We, as human beings, love to judge and evaluate everything...absolutely everything, especially ourselves. When looking at how I parent I notice the little voice in my head is constantly evaluating whether I'm doing it right or not.

If you are wondering if you do this, a very fast way to tell is by noticing how much are you judging whether other parents are doing it "right".

We always judge ourselves in the same areas where we are judging others. For example, if you see a screaming child in a store, what is the conversation you are having about them in your head. Is it something like, "Can't they control their child?"(implying they are parenting "wrong") or "What a bad kid, they must be bad parents."(again..they are "wrong") or "That poor mom, boy do I understand."(shows compassion and understanding) The conversation that you have in your head is an indication of the same way you feel about your own parenting.

Here's the thing, there is no right or wrong way to parent. What may work for me, may not work for you. And just because it works for me, does not mean it is the "right way". It just means it is the right way for me.

You want to notice, areas in parenting where you are suffering. It may be around getting your kids to eat, or when they throw temper tantrum in public, or potty training or taking naps. If you are suffering, you have not found the "right way" for you yet. If this is the case, this is where you can do your research to see what has been working for other parents and then implement them.

Once you realize that there is no "right way, there is only my way, your way, her way and his way, none of which is better then the other, there is a freedom that comes with this realization. You can stop judging yourself and others for the way they(or you) have been parenting. This creates freedom.

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By the way, the fact that you just read this article should let you know what a fabulous parent you are. You take time to make sure you are doing what is best for your children. Thank you for the difference you make for your kids!!