Monday, August 3, 2009

Parenting a Rebellious Teen - One Essential Ingredient

If you are the parent of a teenager, I am sure your patience has been tested more than once. In addition, if you are the parent of a rebellious teen, your job is probably even more trying. So what can you do as a parent, to really help a difficult teen? I think the most important quality you can have is to be unrelenting. Do not ever give up on them, on helping them, standing by them, or on parenting them. If you do, who else will they have?

As parents, our job is to love our children unconditionally as we guide them through childhood and into adulthood. No matter how much they test us, fight us, argue with, ignore us or rebel, we must be persistent as parents. There will always be those difficult days...the days when we are exhausted, frustrated, disappointed and overwhelmed, but every day ends and a new one follows. Keep that in mind. Time is not infinite. There is always an end. Be unrelenting.

So how can you be relentless as a parent? A few things that come to mind are to stay active and involved in their life, pursue them and show attentiveness in what interests them. Attend any events they may have, or accept and participate in any of their leisurely activities that you can. For instance, if you have a child who likes to ride skateboards, go and watch them at the skate park, get to know their friends, maybe attend a professional event with them, like the Dew Tour. Whatever it is they are currently passionate about, get interested in too. Also, be sure to let your teen know that you will always be there for them and that you are always available to listen.

Another part of being relentless is choosing to never give up. No matter how hard a situation gets, be willing to learn more, to seek answers, to find the help you need. Nobody is born knowing all there is to being a parent. Therefore, learning is going to be a part of the process. It is imperative that you remain willing to continue reaching out, to keep trying, and to keep learning. It is then, that you will remain close to your child, even through those rebellious teenage years.

Tina is a happily married WAHM of 4 boys, a freelance writer and advocate for families and parents. She enjoys seeing stressed out parents and broken relationships put back together. Family life is great, and if things are difficult and unhappy at home, then you must find the help you need to restore things once again. Your family can be happy, but it may take some work to get there.

If you found her tips useful and want to read more in depth material about helping your out of control child or teenager then visit her here at:
Out of Control Teenager or at Parenting A Difficult Child

How to Parent Difficult Children Ages 12-14

When you go through childhood, you will be dealing with a wide range of emotions and experiences. What it childhood about? It's about playing with friends, walking around the parks, riding bicycles and jut having a really good time. Childhood is about experiencing the simple joys that life throws at you everyday.

Childhood is the time where children observe the things around them. Through this article, we are going to specifically take a look at children with behavioral problems from the ages of twelve to fourteen.
Take note that the ages twelve to fourteen are the ages that parents need to handle with not only care, but love as well. In fact, any person around the child, including other family members and teachers should handle the child with care.

Not every child out there has a perfect childhood. There are many things that can cause them to become a difficult child. Even being exposed to difficult language and behavior can shape a difficult child. During this time, we understand that dealing with them is not easy for parents, teachers or other family members. This process will involve a lot of patience.

Are you a parent that is dealing with a difficult child? If so, then you first need to stop thinking of that child as being a difficult child. Patience is a virtue and there is no denying this. With parenting, you are definitely need to have patience. Feel free to sit down and speak with your child, find out what is on the child's mind. You may also want to speak with the teachers. As a parent, you should get down to the route of that problem. When you find that your child has abnormal behavioral symptoms, then it is find to go to a therapist or a doctor.

Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards? To Download and listen to my FREE audio recordings visit: http://www.theinhomeparentcoach.com. To Download My New Ebook- "Unleash The Parental Leader Within!" Unleash The Parental Leader Within!

Jason Johnson (MSW) has spent many years working with hundreds of challenging toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, Bi-polar, and SEVERE emotional/behavioral issues.